Sunday, September 15, 2019

Day 4. Back to filming Youtube videos with productivity series...

Saturday September 14. Woke up early and felt the urge to start doing what I have been procrastinating for a very long time. It was filming videos for YouTube.

As any positive action I needed to start the night before. So I started learning everything about something that I have never done before. It was Scripting Vidoes. I found out that it could save a lot of time if you at least had a rough idea on what your going to film about and I sat down wrote an outline what I planned to do the next day.

The new type of videos that I will be trying to post will be Vlogs where I will do my best to speak less and to show more because we all can imagine ourselves as the most productive dudes and gals out there when we talk. However, authentically showing what you are actually doing during the day is really hard. Its challenging in 2 ways. First, I never before realized that I am missing so many filmin making skills. I can't even make the basic transitions and no need to even mention about the editing part ( but I will learn eventually). Second, I would say the most important one, is how hard it is to stay focused on your tasks, life, trainings and film at the same time. Whenever I watch popular youtubers it seems so flowing, however, in fact it is a full time job and takes so much effort to film just few fragments that you may even skip while watching. :)

At first when I finished making the video, I understood that it wasnt the way I thought it would be and I was disappointed. I decided to give it some thought on what I want to do with youtube, weather to post it or not at all. I waited till Sunday, September 15 and the first thing in the morning that I woke up I jumped into editing for 4 hours and managed to create something that doesnt look that aweful. I guess I always suffered from a bit of self criticism. What I know for sure is nothing is supposed to be perfect. Sometimes its the imperfection that attracts as long as you dont stay satisfied and keep on working and improving each day... 

Practice is what makes thing perfect... I am just about to post Saturdays video. To get more comfortable with filming vlogs and lifestyle videos I am practicing making another one as I am finishing up this blog right now... Its all about challenges at these series where at the beginning of each video I share my to do list composed of 5 things and show you how I finish each of them. Check out the full video: https://youtu.be/OtnNBh-peRk

Finally, I would really appreciate if you could share your thoughts on how you think i could improve the qualities of the video and the content and what should i add to make it more interesting. Cheers and see you tomorrow! 

Thursday, September 12, 2019

Day 3. Motivation, Napoleon Hill's Visualization technique and Rockefellers 12 Golden Rules of Riches



Day 3 of my blog-post a day challenge seems to go pretty well. In fact i am starting to enjoy it more and more every day. Writing builds some-sort of unexplainable creativity.

The mornings are usually the hardest. Somehow I wake up and need at least half an hour to get my head back together and feel inspired, motivated and turned on by life again. I heard no one hardly wakes up ready to kill it :). I have experienced this kind of motivation on several occasions. I call it my version of the flow. My goal is to create the lifestyle where each day I wake up with such an energy that I am absolutely inspired and motivated to crush the day...

I kept reading Napoleon Hill yesterday and I am trying to read a chapter a day from Think and Grow Rich and take out one small lesson each day that resonates with me. Yesterday it was the chapter on Auto-Suggestion.

Now, this chapter was very related to an understanding that I came to recently. Basically, one of the keys to achieving your goal is becoming the person you will one day be right away before you even get to the goal. Lets say, you want to be a Successful entrepreneur, business owner, millionaire, or pretty much achieve any goal you have set to yourself. The secret is, to Visualize yourself already there... With every action you take, with every thought or decision, think of what would your successful version do and act in accordance to that. Riches is not a material place to get to. I am sure most of you would agree that if you take away the material wealth from a truly successful person he will eventually get back to the place of riches he once was. It is right the opposite of why most lottery winners end up back with the 0 within few years. Its because success or riches is a state of mind more than anything else. So, the fastest way to achieve your goal is not to have a perfect plan made of Whats and Hows. It is learning and developing the habits/thoughts of the successful people and living in the condition of abundance and productivity that you aim to get to.

This morning before writing this post I read a fantastic article about Rockfeller. I summarised and took the following notes:

1. Do not work work with someone else. Work less for someone else. The one who works the whole day for someone else, he will never have the opportunity to make money for himself.

2. Save money and invest.

3. Start a business. If you don't have much money, you have to do business. If you don't have money at all, you should do business immediately. Right now!

4. Create Passive Income. The path to immense riches lies only through passive income -the income that comes to you independent from your efforts. Create a source of passive income and enjoy your life. Investing is a good option for this.

5. Make 50 000$ per month. Aim for making minimum $50 000 per month. You can make more but not less.

6. Socialize. Meet new people and network.  Money comes to you via other people. Unsocial people rarely become rich

7.  Surround yourself with Successful People. Poor surrounding will almost always drag you down to poorness. Surround yourself with the winners and optimistic people.

8. Take Responsibility! Lack of responsibility makes you poor. Do not make excuses why you cannot start moving towards your goal right now. You don't have excuses. Take action now!

9. Study the biographies and the way of thinking of the richest people of the world. Listen and take advise from only successful people who have already achieved what you want to achieve not your friends or family.

10. Dream! Dreams are the most important thing in your life. A person starts to die when he stops dreaming. You must always have a dream, a vision and an ambition where you want to get in life.

11. Help others. Help people without expecting anything in return but help the ones that you truly want to help. Give back 10% of your income to charity.

12. Enjoy the life. Create business systems that will be working for you in the long run and enjoy the life and the money you made!
                                           

Hope you enjoyed it! Have a fantastic day and work on building your dreams!!

Day 2. Melancholy, Depression, Road To The Dream...Get Fucking Busy!

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There is a really cool Russian YouTuber called Igor Voitenko whom I have been following closely recently. He is a pure example of someone who worked day in and day out chasing his dreams and achieved his goals. He started his own company called road to the dream few years ago and made a huge progress while documenting his journey from an ordinary waiter at McDonalds to an international fitness company owner. His videos are absolute source of motivation and inspiration and his energy is off the roof. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7DFMwmTVwwSO2E5vs2GgQw.

It is not a secret to the people who know me in person that massive changes occurred in my life during the last couple of month. Ending marriage and going through a divorce is not something that one can easily handle. No matter how much in control you try to be over your emotions, thoughts and life as a whole it just gets to you every now and then. The triggering factor was when one of my exes reached out to me yesterday and started digging with curious and uncomfortable questions such as how did u meet your ex-wife, why did u get divorced, couldn't you have saved the marriage and etc. I tried to stay grounded and answer them rationally and honestly even though they were not the easiest questions as I still dont know the answer to some of them. So despite my self suggestion that these things dont get to me and me not showing a crack she managed to fuck up my mood eventually...

So what to do when these kind of things get to you? After-all thinking over and over and holding on to something what is now past will give you nothing but a meaningless pain. The thoughts of past and that something is missing in your life sidetrack you from your goals and massively undermine your productivity. When an emotion gets to you, be it hatred sadness or anything your brain is occupied with something that will give you nothing for the future. So I guess the real question here is how do you control your emotional state when for whatever reason you feel down, demotivated or sad?
The same night  I came across with Igor's video where he answers this exact question. What do you do when you feel down? - His response was very wise. It was three words "Get Fucking Busy". 

 He said "I dont fucking have time to feel depressed or demotivated" and truth of the matter is he is not the first one I heard it from. Most of the successful people repeat it that when you are busy enough chasing the dream that you truly desire then you wont make excuse of holding on to emotional baggage that you carry. Igor's words felt very relatable to me and I repeated the same words to myself "Get Fucking Busy Javid". I stood up went towards my whiteboard and started writing the things I could be working on to improve and build on the life i truly desire. Well it gave me immediately power to focus on the stuff that truly matters and take back control over my life and destiny again. Afteall the key to success must be lying in the movement. The law of inertia states that "objects in motion tend to stay in motion and objects in rest stay in rest". So how about start some moving and build the momentum to get into that productive state of flow where doors of opportunity are awaiting for us! I truly believe that anyone can achieve their goals as long as they do it right. I ve got 2 more years to get where i want to get. The clock is ticking. Lets fucking move now!!

Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Day 1. Overcoming my biggest fear

I guess it is in all of us. We all fear exposing our selves to others, revealing our true selves scared to be judged by many...

I know I haven't been posting my fancy international relations articles for at least past 3 years. In fact I started this blog back when I was doing my bachelors degree at Baku State University. It looked good and all professional back then. Life conditions changed zillion times since.

I always had passion for teaching and impacting the lives of many. What made me the most happy was seeing with my own eyes how someones life changed because of something I gave him or her. For a certain period I did youtube videos, sharing my views on self improvement and personal development portraying all that fancy and cool young professor image. However, you probably already know that people share their best sides only. The real question is how much courage have we got to share the imperfection within us the true us? The struggle the challenge and million failures that we go through in order to achieve something... The thing is that I like setting goals, challenging myself and working on them. The truth is, however, I don't always succeed. I fail as many do million times before I complete just 1% of the goals I ve set. 

Never-less, today I decided start a new challenge which is to share 30 blogposts where I will write all about my day, what goes through my head, plans, aspirations, dreams and what I learned that day. The goal is to be as transparent as possible and tackle my main fear which is the imperfect me. The truth of the matter is that my days are not always exploding with productivity that ive been preaching and talking so loudly about. Quite contrary the past 2 weeks I ve been suffering with inactivity. Looking back, i am thinking that I am getting old... What I fear most is that I might event die without having the chance of living and building the life I want because I was afraid of doing, because I waited for the perfect moment and it never came...

It is the life without fear of expressing yourself that I dream of. The life where you dont fake a smile, pretend that you like everyone, where you are not afraid to speak loud enough without fearing that you might offend someone, where you dont wait for the perfect moment to start doing something but you go and grab it by the ear and so on. The only way to do so, is to eliminate the fear. One a time. The good thing is that I have hope and I know that if I start living my life as fulfilled as if its the last three month then I can and I will be able to break free of the self constraint that most of us are suffering from. Even though we may sometimes not even know about it. Who knows, maybe soon enough I will restart the Youtube as well (Thats the grand plan). Writing, however, is something that gives a different kind of joy and mental clarity when you do it properly. I already see a future building in front of my eyes where I publish a book alongside creating quality content on the Youtube platform. Thats it for today. Lets save something left for tomorrow... Cheers!


Tuesday, September 4, 2018

My journey of Personal development. Episode 1: “Random thoughts that go through my mind: Goal Setting, Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits”

Good morning! Time to write my story.

So yesterday, I decided that every day for at least 20 minutes half an hour I will be writing something like my thoughts, my ideas without filtering them and with no editing. This will help me develop a habit of writing on a consistent basis. Besides, creating content is not that difficult thing if you take into consideration the fact that you will be writing what happens to you what thoughts goes through your mind.


Last night I watched this called Thomas Frank on YouTube and I really liked his goal setting blog. He put a list of things what he wants to achieve titled “the impossible list”.


Inspired by him I decided to start my own list. It is as following for this month:


My Goals for this month:

· Writing 30 minutes every day for 30 days

· Video blogging twice a week for 30 days

· Uploading 10 new videos (two videos a week)

· Getting 250 subscribers on YouTube

· Reading a book a week

· Working on a happier relationship with my wife and family

Moreover, I decided to apply Stephen Covey’s 7 habits of Highly Effective People to my life and share with you the results at the end of the month. These habits are:

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Change starts from within, and highly effective people make decision to improve their lives through the things that they can influence rather than by simply reacting to external forces. (Two circles a. circle of influence b. external circle)

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

Definiteness of the purpose is highly important. When you take action towards your goals have clear image of where you want to be an what you want to achieve.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Certain things that we do bring the most benefit to our personal and professional life. Be able to prioritize your tasks. Eat the frog first. It is good to develop a habit of doing the most difficult and the most important task of the day first. Observe the balance between production and building production capacity.

Habit 4: Think Win/Win

In every interaction try to focus on the arrangements that are mutually beneficial. If win/win deal cannot be achieved, sometimes “no deal” might be the best alternative. In developing an organizational culture, be sure to reward win/win behavior among employees and avoid inadvertently rewarding win/loose behavior.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

In conflicting situations instead arguing your position, seek to understand the other person first, and only then try to be understood. Stephen Covey presents this habit as the most important principle of interpersonal relations. Effective listening is not simply echoing what other person has said through the lens of one’s own experience. Rather, it is putting oneself in the perspective of the other person, listening empatheticly for both feeling and meaning.

Habit 6: Synergize.


 A whole is always greater greater than the sum of the parts seperately. One plus one should be greater than two. 1 + 1 > 2. Through mutual trust and understanding, one often can solve conflicts and find better solution than would have been obtained through either person’s own solution.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Take time out from production to build production capacity through personal renewal of the physical, mental, social/emotional, and spiritual dimensions. Maintaining a balance among these dimensions.

Check my latest video on YouTube on Why you should "Get out of the Comfort zone and Challenge yourself Every Day!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKlYkFS6UDw&t=29s 

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

"How to be more Successful by Creating Habits". The Power of Habit by Charles Duhig.

Hello everyone and welcome to my another book review series. What I want to talk about today is the book titled” The Power of Habit” why we do what we do and how to change it, by Charles Duhigg.

This is actually one of those books that has influenced my life massively and helped me to become the person I am today. So I wanted to share with you some of the most important things that I’ve learned from this book.

What is Habit?

So first lets start with how habits are created. Habits are part of our brains activity to help sustain the energy and efficiency of our daily activities because when habits are acquired a person does not need to engage in self-analysis when undertaking a routine task. The process by which certain behaviours become automatic is what we call habit formation.

Now we can roughly divide habits into two types. Good habits and Bad habits. Some habits can help us enjoy a more productive life such as reading a book a day, waking up early and going to the gym while others may destroy our lives by damaging our productivity and performance such as smoking, consuming fast food, alcohol addiction and constant procrastination.

Habit Loop

Three primary factors are the reason for the Habit creation, what Duhigg calls the Habit Loop. They are the Cue, The Routine and the Reward.  The cue is a trigger that tells your brain to go to automatic mode in which habit to deploys. Next is the routine, which can be physical, or mental or emotional. Lastly is reward, which helps your brain to figure out if this particular loop is worth remembering for the future. Overtime as this habit loop cue routine reward becomes more automatic and the connection between cue and the reward creates a strong sense of anticipation, which is called craving.

Eventually a habit comes force and your brain stops working so hard. Craving feeds the habit loop. Habits create neurological cravings as we associate cues for rewards as subconscious craving emerges that starts the loop. Craving follows a two-step process. One, the brain identifies the simple and obvious cue and two the brain anticipates to find rewards. The habit emerges when you see the cue as craving emerges instantaneously. Once the craving exists you will act automatically whether good habits or bad habits. The neurological process is the same. That’s why breaking bad habits is difficult.

For example if you want to develop the habit of exercising in the morning. It is a good idea to have your exercise shoes near your bed that wherever you are going to see them right when you get up and put them on and let that cue trigger the routine of you go out the door and experience the reward of the endorphins or the feeling of energized, celebrate that reward maybe give you a healthy treat to bootstrap your brain that these rewards are real, the rewards that you genuinely enjoy.

So fro me personally, when I get up in the morning I meditate I do my morning routine and then I’ve got the most important thing that I have to do on that particular time right there on my desk. It is the only thing on my desk. That’s a cue for me. That cue is planned the night before so that the exposure to that cue may trigger the emotion of taking action towards that particular goal.

How to change bad Habits

The main thing I got from the whole book was that if you are aware of the cue and reward and you just change the routine, then you are more likely to create new habits and change your old habits.

In order to change the old habit, you have to notice what cues you have that trigger the particular negative habit and try to avoid it. Or another effective way of getting rid of bad habits is by simply changing or replacing the routine while keeping the cue and reward the same, with a new one for a period of time just enough to associate that cue and reward with the new habit that will help to make your life better. 

Now in order to effectively change the old bad habits our brains require a belief that they can make it. The replacement habits only become durable new behaviours by something else, something powerful such as groups and shared experiences. A community creates belief. Effective change happens when people come together to help one another change. For habit to change people must belief it will change for that help people must believe change is possible and that helps with the help of groups.

Keystone Habit

Duhigg explains in his books how major companies such as Mc Donald’s, Procter and Gamble Starbucks and many others used habit creation into their advantage in order to effectively market their products and secure their top place in the highly competitive market. So those of you who are interested in marketing or thinking of creating your own company make sure you find this book and read it because it should be very useful for you.

The successful companies apply the keystone habit principle. For instance morning accountability check inns to ensure your team members have what they need to overcome obstacles. That keystone habit and regular conversation become embedded to your organisational culture. This principle can be applied as to the companies and to the individuals as well. The research has shown simply by initiating an exercise routine people eating better, resting better, taking better care of themselves simply by initiating an exercise routine. In the morning if you wake up and eat healthy you will be more likely to eat healthy through the day. 

Willpower

Willpower is identified in studies as single most important factor in success. The best way to strengthen the willpower is to make a habit of it. Willpower is both a learnable skill and a muscle. It gets tired as it works harder so there is less power left over for other things. That’s why productivity experts recommend tackling the hardest tasks or the most creative ones first each day if you can or tidiest routine tasks can follow.

According to the research’s willpower has the single biggest correlate with success.  Willpower out predicts almost everything for what ever it is you wanna achieve in your life. The fact that will power out predicts IQ by a factor of two for academic performance. You can take two kids with one higher level of IQ and another higher willpower and try to predict who’s academic performance is going to be higher, then the one with higher or stronger willpower will be twice more likely to achieve better results in their academic performance. Therefore If you want to succeed in the so called long run you should work on and cultivate your willpower as well.

Conclusion

So make sure you follow those three steps of building new habits by controlling the cue, routine and ritual or by slightly changing the ritual while keeping the cue and reward the same if you want to replace your old bad habit into a new one.  Don’t forget about identifying your keystone habit, which is the essential catalyst of your positive habits and successful performance, which we mentioned in this case as exercising or going to the gym as you call it. And lastly make sure you practise and strengthening your willpower by constantly working on improving yourself and creating a better version of yourself.





Saturday, October 24, 2015

Review of the book Aleph by Paulo Coelho

I decided to start a new column in my blog, as from now on I plan to share the summaries and my views on the books that I finish reading. By doing so I believe it will encourage me to spend more time on reading and finish at least one book a week and give the reader insight on what to expect from the books.

A quick review of the book titled "Aleph" by Paulo Coelho that I just finished reading. The story seems to be about the real life story of author himself in his journey of finding his place at his kingdom. In order to do so he needs to be forgiven for his sins that he has committed in his previous lives. At this stage author’s spiritual beliefs and religious views are revealed as he sees himself as a priest who used to take part in trails of women accused in witchcrafty by Orthodox Church in his previous life. In order to fill the emptiness of his soul and reacquire his inner kingdom Paulo takes a journey to Russia and along the way on Trans Siberian train he is overwhelmed by the company of the Turkish girl Hilal. She is a stubborn and ambitious girl who makes her way through all the obstacles to join the group Paulo is traveling with. She is also the person who needs to forgive Paulo as she was the one who was executed because of her love to Paulo in their previous life. The story is highly focused on the spiritual beliefs of the author and his views about reincarnation as well as the elements of suffering and need for forgiveness in Christianity is widely portrayed.

 To conclude, I would rate this book maximum 3 out of 5 as it seems author did his best to make not so exciting storyline as interesting as possible. In addition the first chapters seem to be more attractive as the story starts with Paulo’s conversation with his mentor J. who is guiding him in his personal development path. However, along the journey this focus slides from the personal development to mind penetrating subjective views of author on various issues such as reincarnation, good and bad, happiness and etc. which makes it a bit skeptical for the reader to agree with him in all occasions. In addition the character of the main hero portrays sometimes egotistic and selfish traits from the conversations with people around him of an arrogant writer who thinks as of himself as the center of the universe.

Day 23: GRE Vocabulary, Success Journal, Kick-Boxing, Balance of life

Learning new words has been something I never enjoyed. The idea of having to write a vocabulary, and memorize words always irritated me. How...